October is National Bullying Prevention Month in some parts of the planet. \u201cEvery day thousands of young people experience bullying from their peers while at school, after school in their neighborhoods, and even when they are at home, through social media and texts,\u201d PACER points out. Founded in 2006, PACER is a National Bullying Prevention Center (wwwpacer.org).<\/p>\n
But, here\u2019s my question. How do we as adults hope to prevent bullying among our youth when adults can be some of the vilest verbal word-villains?\u00a0<\/p>\n
A 2019 article in The Chicago Tribune tells the snarly story. An Illinois freelance writer, Melissa Blake, wrote a recent anti-Trump op-ed piece for CNN. A mob of mean mug-thugs hurled hurtful names: fat, potato, blobfish.<\/p>\n
Blake tweeted back with such dignity and grace she\u2019s my new heroine. She showed three happy selfie pics and educated the mug-thugs about Freeman-Sheldon Syndrome, a genetic bone and muscular disorder. She\u2019s experienced 26 surgeries. Say howdy to her at melissablakeblog.com.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ll admit that I wanted to smear Gorilla Glue Epoxy on the cyber-bully\u2019s malicious lips. And dip their foul fingertips in battery acid.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cMost of us encounter adult bullies at certain points in our lives. An adult bully can be an intimidating boss or colleague, a controlling romantic partner, an unruly neighbor, a high-pressure sales\/business representative, a condescending family member, a shaming social acquaintance, or other types of abusive relationships,\u201d surmised a 2016 online article at Psychology Today.<\/p>\n
An adult bully can also be a president, a politician, a professor, a physician, a police officer, a TV producer, preacher, a parent, a partner, or a peer. A bully likes power and control. \u201cIt\u2019s my way or the highway.\u201d Bullies can often be found in positions of power.<\/p>\n
Being bullied goes right to our core and we feel disrespected and treated unfairly. We expect adults to act and react with maturity not with a total toxic tongue. Bullying behavior is a consistent and intentional pattern of intimidation, harassment, or aggression.\u00a0<\/p>\n
In a 2018 article on the Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center website, Ken Yeager, Ph.D. reported, \u201cAdults are being bullied at levels similar to adolescents, according to a 2017 survey conducted on behalf of the American Osteopathic Association. The online survey of more than 2,000 U.S. adults found that 31 percent of Americans have been bullied as an adult. The survey defined bullying as being subjected to repeated, negative behavior intended to harm or intimidate.\u201d<\/p>\n
Again, I ask the same question. How do we as adults hope to prevent bullying among our youth when adults can be belligerent bullies?<\/p>\n
And reality TV shows are ripe with bullying behaviors. It appears that competition can bring out the snarky, nasty, and ghastly: threats, personal attacks, manipulation. Pathetic producers pander the performance drama for ratings. Folks, just change the channel.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Bill O\u2019Reilly, former Fox News Host, was finally fired\u2014he reigns as the classic bully of the on-air culture of a host bullying guests. And Judge Judy is Queen Mean.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cSimple peck-order bullying is only the beginning of the kind of hierarchical behavior that can lead to racism, sexism, ethnocentrism, classism, and all the other \u2018isms\u2019 that cause so much suffering in the world,\u201d surmised Octavia Butler.<\/p>\n
As adults we must continue to role model and teach the Golden Rule to our children. I ask another question. Can we create a world without bullying?\u00a0<\/p>\n
Melissa Martin, PH.D. (Special to the Saipan Tribune)<\/strong> October is National Bullying Prevention Month in some parts of the planet. \u201cEvery day thousands…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[163,664],"class_list":["post-311106","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-opinion","tag-kids","tag-ph"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/311106","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=311106"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/311106\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=311106"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=311106"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.saipantribune.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=311106"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nMelissa Martin, Ph.D., is an author,
\ncolumnist, educator, and therapist.
\nShe lives in the U.S.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"